Growing Closer to God

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Growing Closer to God

You may think that growing closer to God is your idea, but guess what? It is not, it was his idea before you were even born. God is a loving Father who desires to have an intimate relationship with each of his children. Just like most fathers, he wants to have a close bond with you that no one can break, not your family, friends, or significant other.

Here is the thing however, oftentimes we imagine that God is distant, and that all he really cares about is us doing right by him. But that could not be further from the truth. God wants your heart and all of you. God longs to love on you and cover you in his glory. He wants to spoil you with his never ending, unfailing love, something we often long for from humans, but that no man on earth can truly give us.

Imagine God telling you these words from Song of Solomon 1:15, “How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves.” I don’t know about you Sis, but just the thought of it makes my heart smile. There is something that happens when God romances your heart; you develop intimacy and trust in Him that carries you through every season of your life even the most challenging ones, like the one many of us are in now.


The importance of an intimate and personal relationship with God?

God’s idea of a relationship is not like many of us think, where he tells you what to do, and you do it. No, he wants one where you pour out your heart to Him and allow Him to speak intimately to you. There are many things you probably have packed in your heart that you simply need to get out so that you can make more room for God. Growing closer to him definitely requires that you do some spring cleaning of your heart.

One of the most important reasons for developing a more intimate relationship with God is so that you can get to know him and therefore understand Him better. Think about how King David knew God so well that he always run everything by Him, even when going into battle. He was successful because God gave Him victory in the secret place before he even got into the battlefield (1 Samuel 23:4). God will make you victorious in the secret place when you meet with him and glory will be evident in every area of your life.

When you have a close personal relationship with the Lord, you become more empowered, and you begin to speak as he does. You are never short of words to encourage yourself or your fellow sisters in the Lord. Your gracious words will be a honeycomb that unleashes sweetness to the soul and healing to the bones (Proverbs 16:24). This is one of the outcomes of a closer relationship with your Father.

As women, we sometimes feel insecure when we think we are not the prettiest, smartest, or happiest. This makes us shrink back and not walk with the boldness our Daddy desires. But when you have spent quality time with the Lord, you will feel more confident, bold, and outgoing. So next time you look in the mirror Sis, say to yourself, “I praise You, for I am awesomely, wonderfully made! Wonderful are Your works – and my soul knows that very well” (Psalm 139:14).

Relationship versus Religion

Many Christians were brought up in religion and told that if we did not obey God’s rules, we would straight up Go to Hell... That's it and that's all!  We grew up fearing God instead of seeing him as our loving Father in heaven. Thank God that He sent Jesus to show us that God is relational, and our relationship with Him is one of a parent and child. He is the Father, and we are His children.

Religion has to do with rules and regulations that one must follow, or face condemnation. The Israelites tried keeping the Law and faced many problems. Hebrews 8:7 tells us that if there had been nothing wrong with the first covenant, no place would have been sought for another. This means that the first covenant (the Law) did not bring anyone closer to God, but the second one that came with Jesus brings us closer to Him. The first one was religious, but the second one is relational. 

You’ll notice that in the Gospels, Jesus usually referred to God as “Father” (John 6:40), and He showed us that through Him, we too can have a relationship with God. This is a loving relationship because God is love. And as women, we absolutely thrive off love, and that is why when we face rejection, we feel unloved and/or unlovable. We always want to hear the words “I love you” so that we can feel like we are just sitting on top of the world.  

Therefore, a loving relationship with God is key to not only our spiritual health but our emotional health as well. We react emotionally to the presence or lack of love in our lives, and this affects our relationships. If your heart is anchored on God, you will not react so strongly when others do not love you as you hoped they would or like you think they should. God’s love is so powerful God teaches us to love others even when they do not love us back (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).

However, when we are operating from a religious mindset, it is hard to receive God’s love or give it to others. That is one of the reasons God calls us to renew our minds with His Word so that we can fully understand the kind of covenant we have with Him (Romans 12:2). 


Receiving healing for your past hurts

Many of us had a colorful past life, that has left us wounded and maybe even feeling a bit angry at ourselves, and we ended up projecting that anger on to others unknowingly. God longs to heal the wounds of your past so that you can love Him with all your heart, soul, and mind (Matthew 22:37). God’s healing restores your heart to wholeness, and you can love Him and others more freely.

So, what does Growing closer to God look like? Growing closer to God looks like, letting him into the darkest places in your heart, where you just want to keep the lights off. May I encourage you to give yourself a chance to let God into the deeper places in your heart and watch how He transforms your life. Look Sis, he knows every part of your heart anyhow, so why not open up and allow him to touch it with His power.


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  • Wow
    This is so soothing 😍 Thank you sis.

    Wendy on
  • Beautiful message. Touched my heart!

    Felicia Vaughn on
  • The entire message was awesome. I am looking forward to restoring my relationship and getting closer with him. T

    Ameena on
  • ‘Let God in your darkest and deepest places,’ this is very true. Thank you for sharing

    Anita on
  • Love it!
    This is so true. No mater your past or what you were thought, God wants YOU. He wants a relationship with YOU. It took me a long time to realize this. I don’t have to be in leadership or the best at quoting scripture. He can use me now. He wants me to come to Him now. I will make it a priority to spend time with God.
    I love how God uses you! Thank you for this!

    The Woman Built Empire on

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